Bridgette DeBoer: Tick-Tock |

Bridgette DeBoer: Tick-Tock

Bridgette DeBoer

Time continues to move forward. The notion of time is compelling. Time plays a significant role in our lives. When you stop to think about it, there is very little in this world that is not organized around time. It helps to keep us in order. All over the world depending on the suns position, we agree on the time of day or night. We plan every detail of our lives around the clock. Time seems to be a non-negotiable facet.

Relative to the time of day behaviors appear acceptable. The time of day dictates what we do, where we go, who we see and moreover it’s a control factor in managing self-regulation. Many of us believe there is not enough time in the day to complete our tasks. While others work hard to fill the empty hours. Those who are incarcerated have a very different concept of time than someone diagnosed with a terminal disease. How can time be both unchangeable and fluid?

Perception is a powerful instrument. Every move we make in life is based in perception of the situation through the eyes of our past experiences and what we believe to be true about them. Each of us has our own unique history. Not even siblings growing up in the same household has the same opinion of the events of their childhood. Perception can be a prison or it can give you wings from confining circumstances.

Simply put, it becomes a choice. In every moment have awareness of the picture you are painting about the situation. At the same time look for the sharp edges so that you can soften them up and allow for more room to bend the limits you are placing on yourself and those involved. You always have a choice, even when it seems you don’t. In fact, when you think you don’t that is the sharp edge to be aware of.

A rule of thumb when time seems to be moving too quickly and you’re swimming in the pool of scarcity thinking is to remind yourself of this sharp edge. Remember to slow down when you’re in a hurry. Your perception will bend time.

Bridgette DeBoer M.A., is a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, marriage and family therapist. She can be reached at 450-6632.