Along Our Journey: Which part are you playing?
“All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts, his acts being seven ages.” This quote from William Shakespeare suggests a philosophy far deeper than words alone.
Imagine, if you will, his view of life; returning time and time again to practice different roles for the richness of direct experimental learning allowing for an understanding of humanity from a soul perspective. How better to comprehend a life of addiction than to live it for yourself. The depth of first hand knowledge of how it feels to be a mother, brother, son or grandparent transcends outside perspective. By living a life of privilege and opportunity one can clearly see that this too, has its challenges. Experiencing life on both sides of prejudice gives chance to understand the fear and anger riddled throughout the persecution and the victimized. Truly knowing the plight of living with a disability and alternatively the selfless act of being a care-taker deepens our knowledge of life even more.
Each path offers choice within the confines of circumstance. Broken down to the most basic level, each soul has the ability to operate from a place of love or fear. Fear based choices come from a very limited view which puts pressure on the potential for loss while love based decisions originate from safety and abundant thought. Fear keeps us in protection from others while love opens our arms to share and embrace.
No matter which role you play this time around, you always have the gift of autonomy. You can choose to give others the benefit of the doubt in difficult situations. You can forgive others and yourself for wrong doing. You can let go of judgment for differences in lifestyle that you may not approve of, because you may play that part next time around. The more we can bring love into places of fear the less we will hurt one another. We are all in this together. Some of us choosing to love and some of us stuck in fear.
Bridgette DeBoer M.A., is a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, marriage and family therapist. She can be reached at 450-6632.