Do you see silver linings or dark clouds? |

Do you see silver linings or dark clouds?

What happens when life throws us a curve ball? That moment when we receive bad news or something happens unexpectedly. These are the moments that define who we are. These are the moments that bring our true nature out for all to see.

We all have these moments when things go wrong; when life doesn't happen the way we expect. It's in these moments that we find our inner resilience. We all have the ability to adapt. It's in our genetic makeup. We are an evolving, adapting and thriving species. So the question becomes, do we allow this natural ability to step up and support change or do we get stuck in negative thinking and block growth?

It boils down to a basic fundamental belief. Is change good or bad? If change is bad then we get stuck in the past, thinking life was better before this or that happened. You're a prisoner in your life feeling as if you have no control. If change is good, you acknowledge the emotions involved in the process, validate yourself and the situation, buckle up for the hard work to come and know deep inside that you will be better for it in the end.

Curve balls can be pivotal shifts in life that bring you abundance in ways you do not anticipate. Bad news can open you up to new perspectives that affect your quality of life. You may not have seen this without a little push. Things that happen outside of our life plan can be a wake up call. Being awake in life is truly being alive. It may not be easy or comfortable but you have your eyes wide open. This creates space for new energy to come in. New information, ideas, opportunities and experiences are necessary to problem solve. When there is space, it gets filled.

We can allow this process to flow like a beautiful sparkling stream by letting go or it can feel more like the torturous work it takes to build a dam with heavy boulders while the water seeps through the cracks. The choice is ours.

Bridgette DeBoer M.A., is a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, marriage and family therapist. She can be reached at 450-6632.