Open heart, open eyes
Being an observer brings some unexpected insights. Watching others interact while remaining reserved, can show you aspects of those around you in a new light. When we interact we bring our personality and intention to the communication. This tends to cloud our perception of the scenario a bit because we are involved. Being an observer means to refrain from interaction and just view your surroundings. While observing, it is important to abstain from judgment. Allow yourself to observe the world and your loved ones with a completely open mind. Just be curious.
The practice of being an observer can open you up to seeing with great clarity those around you in a way you never have before. It is viewing without an agenda. You may find yourself feeling very relaxed and centered. Most of the time we live in our to-do list focused on being active in completing something in a linear fashion. This keeps us with a forward momentum and tuning out stimulus around us that does not directly affect our plan. Observing removes all of this; leaving only a soft gaze for those around you. It’s amazing the small details of someone’s facial expressions or body language you may notice. You may find a kinder more loving scope as you observe. Many people do.
Once you’ve tried looking outside yourself, turn the observing eye inward. Notice your own thoughts and feelings. Be present in your body and pay attention to how it feels. Do you have aches and pains? Is your stomach asking you to eat better? Maybe your back is requesting a little more support. Observing your own experience free from judgment and with a kind heart helps us all get a little more connected. Being more connected to our self helps to understand those around us, because we are all more alike than we are different.
Bridgette DeBoer M.A., is a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, marriage and family therapist. She can be reached at 450-6632.