New year, new resolutions |

New year, new resolutions

by Karen Brier

New Year’s resolutions are a lot like cut flowers – they come on strong, but they fade fast. It’s not even February but the crowds at the gym are already starting to thin out. The 30 women in my 5 a.m. Kaia FIT class have dwindled to less than 20. That’s 10 resolutions out the window already. Statistic Brain listed these familiar items as the top resolutions for 2014: Lose Weight, Get Organized, Spend Less, Save More, Stay Fit and Healthy, Learn Something Exciting, Quit Smoking, Fall in Love and Spend More Time with Family.

All great resolutions which have figured among my top 10 for the last few decades. I did find it interesting that there were two that I didn’t expect that made the list this year: Enjoy Life to the Fullest and Help Others in Their Dreams. Also good goals, but too ambitious for me this year. My own goals are a lot more laid back:

1. I will give myself a break and not expect perfection, because it is not possible

2. I will give others a break because it’s only fair (see No.1)

3. I will go outside every day and look at the sky and feel the sun or enjoy the stars

4. I will celebrate all the activities that I can still do at 50-plus that I never tried to do at 20

5. I will be grateful every day for all the wonderful things in my life

6. I will be less fearful and more peaceful

7. I will take care of myself by eating food that I enjoy that is good for me

8. I will take care of myself by spending more time relaxing and enjoying life

9. I will talk to more friends and not just on Facebook

10. I will not go back and move the indent over so this line matches the others (see item 1)

11. I will whine less and wine more

12. I will give myself permission to be happy and to do things that make me happy

13. I will not make New Year’s resolutions that make me frantic and feel like a failure (see item 1) (I admit, several items were removed to make this one true.)

What I learned in 2013 was that life keeps racing along until it doesn’t. Until then, I want to enjoy it and not kill myself in my search for perfection. A friend of mine gave me a book in 1991 called “Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much.” It’s a recovery guide for workaholic women. I have never taken the time to read it, which says a lot, doesn’t it? Now I’m reading a page each day and not giving myself too much grief if I have to catch up a few pages on the weekend. It’s a journey and I like where I am. For the first time in my life, I’m not so focused on where I’m going next.

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