Negative thoughts and your pillow?
Combating negative thoughts can be difficult. We all have times when our thoughts go negative. We think of worse case scenario and worry about things that haven’t happened yet. Most times they never do.
On these days we spend most of our time in our heads combating these thoughts or worse yet, ruminating on them.
Getting stuck on the same thought and going over and over it again and again with no progress. It seems as if the longer we think about it, the more powerful the thoughts become.
Like a snow ball picking up speed and mass while rolling down a hill.
The more energy we give a fearful thought the more powerful it becomes.
When this happens we feel anxious. This tends to produce even more negative thoughts. By this time we are in the thralls of anxiety and feel stuck.
The trick is to catch the fearful thought as soon as possible, before it gains momentum. This is when you have the most strength. It’s a choice. If you make an agreement with yourself not to get caught up in negative or fearful thinking then this is the time to gently remind your fearful thought to vacate. After all it is just a thought. Apply logic to counteract the worry.
The logic or truth is, we don’t know what the future will bring. We may not know the answer today but in time situations usually have a way of working out.
Wouldn’t it be nice to worry less about how things will work out? The fact of the matter is worrying does not make the end result better. You do not get points for how long you worry.
We all have times when life feels difficult. During these times we can choose what we focus on.
Paying attention to what needs to be done is important however, spending time dwelling on what is difficult or unpleasant only creates more of it. This is a good time to find something in your life you appreciate and focus on that.
There are times when life can be so chaotic that its hard to find something you appreciate. When this happens, go general. Find something simple to focus on and find pleasure in, for instance your bed pillow. Yes, your pillow. Keep it simple. You can be grateful for your pillow.
When you lay down at night, after a difficult day, choose to let it all go and focus on your pillow.
Draw your attention to its comfort and dependability, after all its only purpose is to give you comfort at the end of the day.
It’s really the simple things in life that can be the most significant.
Bridgette DeBoer M.A., is a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, marriage and family therapist intern. She can be reached at 450-6632.