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We all have a certain amount of energy each day. Some days require more than others. The energy we expend is worth paying attention to because, when we run out, it makes everything more difficult to accomplish. We make different decisions and choices when we’re tired. We have a shorter fuse when we are depleted. It’s important to notice our energy levels.
One way to conserve energy is to be mindful of your experiences. We all get triggered; sometimes daily. When something happens, a comment or action from another that touches an old wound we can be triggered into the past. These unresolved feelings come out in the present, sometimes as intensely as when they originally occurred. Being triggered takes a large amount of energy. Sometimes a trigger can lead to a panic attack and this is physiologically taxing on the mind and body.
If we pay attention to the present moment and notice we have become reactionary, we have much more power in our experience. We can then choose how much energy we want to give this person, place or situation that has triggered upset feelings in us. There may even be a philosophical question about the necessity of getting upset to be heard by others. Is there a belief around what is powerful, or maybe, a feeling of victimization and life being too hard?
The truth is, being reactionary takes a substantial amount of our energy. And you may ask yourself if it is the most beneficial course of action. Giving others your energy through upset feelings may leave you worn out at the end of the day. Is that how you want to spend your daily allowance of liveliness? There could be other ways to use this life force. Ways more fun for you. Next time you feel triggered ask yourself, is it worth it?
Bridgette DeBoer M.A., is a licensed alcohol and drug counselor, marriage and family therapist. She can be reached at 450-6632.