Why so bitter?
March 19, 2014
In the closeted world Betty J. Stano (R-C March 14: “Against God’s law”) inhabits, “there is no such thing as same-sex marriage,” gays “should not have the right to be addressed as a married couple, or receive equal benefits as truly married people,” “lesbians should not be allowed to conceive children by any method,” and homosexual “wickedness” is about to bring the country down.
Dear Betty. Why so bitter? Especially at a time when the majority of people of faith support LGBT marriage equality. A February 2014 poll by the Public Religion Research Institute found that the majority of Jewish Americans (83 percent), white mainline Protestants (62 percent), white Catholics (58 percent), and Hispanic Catholics (56 percent) favor allowing gay and lesbian couples to legally marry. Only white evangelicals (69 percent) and black Protestants (59 percent) oppose same-sex marriage.
Dear Betty. As a practicing Christian, why so hateful? Do you not embrace Jesus’ gospel of love, embodied in his all-inclusive promise of Matthew 11: 28: “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
Centuries later, the head of the Catholic church continues to evoke Jesus’ compassion for all. “If a person is gay and seeks God and has good will,” Pope Francis said last July, “who am I to judge him?”
Or consider the wisdom of the Dalai Lama, who argued in a recent interview that today’s scary bugaboo isn’t same-sex marriage, but homophobia. “It is a violation of human rights,” he declared.
Dear Betty. You acknowledge that President Obama has “applauded” same-sex marriage. But do you condemn him because he’s “thoroughly socialistic and hyper-liberal”—or because he’s black? Do you not recall from your Sunday school days that Jesus in all probability was a dark-skinned Galilean Semite?
And what is this nonsensical linking of the Biblical tale of Sodom and Gomorrah to the “evil” of same-sex marriage? Rabbinic and Christian scholarship both affirm that the story of Sodom was intended as a homily about the sins of inhospitality, love of property and lack of compassion. The story is “not even vaguely about homosexual love or relationships,” but instead “about dominance and rape, by definition an act of violence, not of sex or love,” the Anglican Communion avers.
Dear Betty. It may pain you to hear this, but the realities are these: like many lesbian couples today, we are married, we refer to each other as “wife,” we did in fact conceive, we have three amazing children, and we are legally covered as spouses for insurance and medical benefits. More importantly, the U.S. Supreme Court has defined the legality and equality of our marriage with its 2013 Windsor decision. Our marriage is just as valid as anyone’s — under the law, and in God’s eyes.
As Jesus counseled in the Biblical book of Philippians (4: 8), “…think on these things.”Diane Rogers and Bonnie Wagner